Bro code dating friends ex
I especially feel close to this one guy, and I think he feels the same way.
We would both like to stay friends, but I’m not sure how it would work.
If the attraction is not returned, the friendship still changes, but now there is a problem to work through. (In fact, sometimes friendships grow between people who were previously involved, though I must confess I have never had the desire to befriend an ex in that way.) It’s hard, though, and usually the rejected person benefits most from moving on entirely and getting past those feelings. And you and he can never hang out and get close because of that ancient history? But even that may be too limiting, if your friend is more emotional than rational.
You mention a vibe with this guy, and that the two of you have talked about wanting to remain friends. Jen, you say that your boyfriend broke up with you, and has clearly moved on by hooking up with someone new.
I cannot see any reason why you should not become closer as friends. I’ve had girls tell me they could never “go there” if their friend had hooked up with a guy randomly two years previously and it didn’t work out. He has therefore proved, that He is Just Not Into You at All Anymore, and as such, has no right whatsoever to have an opinion on who you hang out or hook up with. In summary, Jen, I think you an Ex’s friend should feel free to see whether there is the potential for something special between you, without any regard whatsoever for the feelings of Ex.
It sounds in this case like there may be a mutual attraction, though you are concerned about the timing; it is probably still too soon. The utterly ridiculous and absurd Man Code aka Bro Code. In fact, I would argue that he has a moral obligation to wish the best for you, and if that means seeing you with his good friend, so be it.
So, why does one side of the party usually always get the blame from those looking in? The unwritten, and sometmes hilariously written (blogged about), guidelines that all guys are supposedly ingrained from birth to follow.
People will always have their opinions -- that’s what makes the world go 'round. For those of you who have committed treason against your fellow bro, code #28 goes a little something like this: A bro should never, under any circumstance, sleep with another bro’s ex-girlfriend.
And we’re both pretty sure my ex would veto the whole situation.
So it’s very common for one person or the other to feel an attraction, and to communicate those feelings either in subtle or direct ways.
If the attraction is mutual, the friendship changes as the relationship shifts. There is a slightly less extreme variation that requires you to ask permission of said friend.
However, when two young people are single and developing a friendship, they are not required to observe any boundaries.
They are free to explore any impulses or urges that arise.
In fact, they neglect and repress those feelings so successfully that sexual tension does not have the opportunity to develop.